Upvoted. Thanks for saving me from typing a few paragraphs, you hit my sentiment spot on, esp, re: options from 20-40. It sounds like he/she needs to sever a few anchors (job, location) and just do something that reignites some life fire. It damn sure is not going to get easier as time passes. Worse, he/she may become less sensitive to the obviously dysfunctional situation and just live a life of learned helplessness.