Re:Neal Stephenson: Why I Am a Sociomediapath (2015)
by zkhalique on Wednesday January 06, 2016 @12:39PM
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Mike, I'm going to say that you can continuously improve and upgrade your career, you can't say the same about your wife and kids. So, it's more important to date and look for a wife early, while with your professional career you have all the time you need.
From your name, I'm going to guess you're Jewish, so you would have had even harder of a search, if you wanted to marry someone Jewish, than if you did not have this additional filter. So, don't worry... you've succeeded in choosing your wife, starting a family, and now you have plenty of time to keep improving in your career. Consider the opportunity cost of doing the reverse - career first, then kids.
Re:Neal Stephenson: Why I Am a Sociomediapath (2015)
by mikegerwitz on Wednesday January 06, 2016 @12:41PM
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I do agree---I'd rather have the family.
I'm not Jewish, but your comments stand all the same. Thanks for the kind words.
Re:Neal Stephenson: Why I Am a Sociomediapath (2015)
by vivekian2 on Wednesday January 06, 2016 @03:10PM
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I would say for your age, you are taking your responsibilities quite well. Kudos to you for being so positive and inspiring others!
I'm young---I'm 26, and I have a wife and two young children (2 and 4). I'm at that age where I could have gotten involved in so much, personally and professionally---and still could. And I know that this will be a bit setback for things I'd like to do in the future. But time with my family is more important, and we also bought a house that needs a lot of work.
And I fully expect to be feeling exactly as you are describing. And I'm trying to come to terms with that today, while I'm still young: focus on what I can be happy for today, recognize how my decisions affect my future, how I might adjust my plans, and recognize that the decisions I made (or didn't) have desirable consequences that I wouldn't change if I had the option to go back and do it again.
Thanks for sharing your experiences.