> Now imagine you could never ethically satisfy that drive. Ever.
Would it be ethical to have sex with a virtual reality child?
ethics and morals aside, there are some laws that prohibit fictional depictions of CP combine that with the ambiguity of ages of characters in fiction and you could have something like this http://cbldf.org/2011/06/cbldf-forms-coalition-to-defend-ame...
How many straight or gay adults have raped, cheated, had one night stands, to satisfy a sexual need? Countless. The sex drive is enormously powerful.
Now imagine you could never ethically satisfy that drive. Ever. While meanwhile being constantly wracked by shame and guilt every time it asserts itself.
This isn't an excuse to abuse, obviously. But its absurd to assume pedophiles have a stronger or weaker sex drive than anyone else, or that they're uniquely incapable of restraining themselves from abusing others to satisfy it.