Not after you or they left the job.
> second they're probably the same kind of people as you
The diversity is huge already within departments and limitless across.
> Completely agree with that. And as I said in another comment, looking for friends is kind of looking for a girlfriend.
Actually ... it's not at all like that. At least my dating behaviour is for good reasons very different from dealing with guys.
>> Couchsurfing > That's actually a good idea, they regularly meet up.
I have plenty of CS experience and from what I can say - you meet plenty of awesome people through CS - but the relationship-dynamics are exceptionally casual and noncommittal.
>> There's a much higher chance of liking a friend-of-a-friend rather than a random stranger. > Same for dating
Actually - even though this statement seems plausible - I highly doubt it is correct in practice and it isn't as far as I am concerned. It seems rather that people tend to trust more easily and deal more openly with friends of friends.
> If you meet a person and she's not the right one, don't discard her,
To think of "discarding" in that context is stupid in the first place. You can and should discard aholes - anybody else it's just a very dynamic process of distance and closeness which comes to a natural halt at some point.
> The idea can be generalized as: people are not always the perfect fit, but you can still hang out with them and meet some cool people in the process.
Fairly egocentric way of dealing with people - I suppose it's possible to enjoy time with people for what they are without aiming at capitalizing on their relations.
yes but not only. It is a dangerous trap to rely on your colleagues for a social life. First they'll always have to be your colleagues, second they're probably the same kind of people as you (where's the diversity), ...
> You have to kinda treat this a bit like dating
Completely agree with that. And as I said in another comment, looking for friends is kind of looking for a girlfriend.
> Couchsurfing
That's actually a good idea, they regularly meet up. I've heard bad things about reddit meet up so I've never tried but why not?
> Become a regular at a bar or a cafe.
I don't really understand this advice but why not. Become part of your neighborhood is maybe what you wanted to say?
> When you go to events with existing friends, make sure you get to know the people they bring along
That's super important. Because you tend to stick with your friends where you have the opportunity of making other good friends as well
> There's a much higher chance of liking a friend-of-a-friend rather than a random stranger.
Same for dating
> Send social signals about the kind of person you are
Odd. I would rather not and listen to what interesting things people have to say. You don't always have an obvious common thing.
> or every night or day you socialise, you probably won't meet anyone interesting about 80% of the time.
A friend of mine used to say (he was talking about girls but it works as well). If you meet a person and she's not the right one, don't discard her, the right one might still be one of her friends.
The idea can be generalized as: people are not always the perfect fit, but you can still hang out with them and meet some cool people in the process.