http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2015/05/0... http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/sleep-deprivation-effec...
Those are just some articles from this past year but the specialist that I saw for sleep problems when this was all diagnosed wasn't surprised at some of the memory issues I had been having given how severe it was; O2 saturation was dropping down to around 80% for a large portion of the night, and never above 90%. I was also having 0-30 seconds of REM sleep a night from what I was told in the sleep study. Both the terrible O2 and lack of REM sleep account for what was likely happening to my memory. Sleep is definitely a huge deal when it comes to memory.
Probably in a normal functioning person they go lock step so you don't notice how they are different. But if your processes are out of sync, it could explain how they arrived at their feelings.
Memory produces a lot of weird references and metadata. There are some significant experiences in my past where I'm pretty sure I don't remember the thing itself at all, I just remember remembering it. The vivid, multisensory experience of the event fades, and is replaced by the story I told myself when I thought about it later.