Just because I think you'll find this useful (and not because I want to denigrate Node, which I think is great tech, especially with the upgrades in this announcement), have you seen Phoenix[0]? Despite immaturity, I think it is already close to being in Node's league as a back-end for websockets, but seems to have a philosophy you may enjoy more. That is, it reminds me a lot more of Rails and Django than anything in Node. (I also think Elixir is awesome to work with, but that's somewhat beside the point.)
This is an announcement about the Node open source community finally overcoming their differences and making strides towards platform stability, yet your first response is to complain about "massive instability" (which turns out to be more about individual libraries than the platform itself) and how you "wouldn't hold Node up as a great example of the open source community". I can't see this as anything more than a slap in the face.
My opinion? You probably should withhold your judgement of the "open source community" if you only have superficial knowledge about their efforts.
I am using this discussion as a means of saying "here's what I think Node needs to get more people using it in production". My opinion is that they need to do more work on stability of the API, and improve documentation, to win over us enterprise types who value long-term stability over short-term features.