( The 4+ is basically a filter on non-coders. I completely agree with you about overtime. )
The theory is that asking for a HN is a good filter for a good coder. ( This offer will likely go on reddit, my apologies if you see it more than once. )I am looking for a haskellish/pythonic HN reader for a senior dev/Technical director. I need someone able to model and code well (No architect who never codes). The ability to communicate well with a team is also a big plus. You don't need...
The big powerhouse will be a nice line on your resume, but most of the time, nothing more.
1/ you're not married. You're just the ghost of lovers. being married means something like enjoying spending time with your precious other.
2/ you're not travelling : you're moving from one airport to the other, with a brief pause in office and hotel between them. travelling means learning the country you're in. Don't delude yourself, you're not travelling except on the surface.
3/ you have no friends, as the rest you have no time for them.
I know the pull of a (code) project, especially when you're the boss. It can become an obsession, and eat over your personnal life. But believe me, beyond 9 hours of real work, you're worthless. Many excellent, brillant coders underlined that for men and in the end, I have to admit they are right.
To be better, you must be open to the world.