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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with an a$$hole colleague? on Friday October 28, 2022 @05:52PM (#33378417)
Get some therapy.

Seriously.

Re:Ask HN: How to deal with an a$$hole colleague? on Friday October 28, 2022 @01:37PM (#33374593)
I believe he is trying to drive me out but I don't think he could tolerate any other ubermensch around (note: loved that :) ). He has an irresistible need to be the Alpha-A$$hole. To the point where he's patronizing everyone and you wouldn't be able to tell who's running the show there.
Re:Ask HN: How to deal with an a$$hole colleague? on Friday October 28, 2022 @01:33PM (#33374558)
>> It takes a gigantic amount of humility to do this based upon the story so far,

Been there, done that. Now I'm at the stage where something in me throws up at every interaction with said person.

>> will eventually result in other participants adopting a foul mood regarding the person doing the lashing

This has happened as well. But like I said the one person that is _his_damned_job_ to fix this cannot or will not do anything.

Re:Ask HN: How to deal with an a$$hole colleague? on Friday October 28, 2022 @01:31PM (#33374535)
>> what is making you such a target

He is intimidated. Because, even though I didn't get a paycheck from google I'm as good or better than him.

Ask HN: How to deal with an a$$hole colleague?

Ex-googler (sorry but it seems there's a pattern with these guys), neurotic, huge ego-issues, never apologizes, insulting and demeaning behavior, completely incapable of _exchanging_ views and a master of destructive criticism. That's my colleague (and team lead) in my new(ish) role.The manager is doing nothing to control this a$$hole despite the matter being raised. Maybe he's startstruck by...

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FWIW I feel for the OP in most of what s/he says.

Luckily there's a lot of hybrid arrangements now where you can have your cake and eat it so to speak.

Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @09:14AM (#33261659)
1. A few friends of mine had kids with woman being over 40. Not unusual.

2. You can adopt.

3. Do not be too sad about it. I for one look at the state of the world around me and feel guilty for having kids. Guilty about bringing them in this mess.

Good luck

Re:Tell HN: Beware 'Ungrowth' in Your Job on Tuesday October 18, 2022 @10:50AM (#33248099)
>> gets too risky when trying to deliver use value at every sprint.

I disagree. To me, being afraid of new code or refactoring code means you're working with a code base that has a lot of tech debt and also no serious continuous integration infra.

Re:Tell HN: Beware 'Ungrowth' in Your Job on Tuesday October 18, 2022 @10:44AM (#33248002)
Thanks for sharing.

Agree 100% btw.

Re:Canonical shows ads in the Ubuntu CLI on Wednesday October 12, 2022 @10:28AM (#33177493)
That's the foot at the door. Third parties is some steps down that road.

Ubuntu/Canonical has been erratic for quite some time now. Time to get back to a non-company backed up distro.

Re:IBM swallows Red Hat storage products on Friday October 07, 2022 @10:38AM (#33121981)
So it seems that the entrenched powers in IBM are winning over. Sad but expected TBH.
Re:Cloud desktops aren't as good as you'd think on Thursday October 06, 2022 @06:39AM (#33106637)
IMHO remote desktops (cloud or DaaS) is a terrible idea with even more terrible executions. I never tried one that could measure up to a local environment.
Nope. Last company I were where it was followed was a trainwreck of productivity. SAFe was a contributor to that. Excruciating long and boring procedures that made the bureaucrats and busy-talkers happy and everyone else miserable.
Re:Ask HN: Books for Reevaluation of Life on Tuesday October 04, 2022 @03:56AM (#33077612)
The problem with that is that it finds you (if ever) too late to be of any use.

Not the OP but in a similar situation.

Re:Google is shutting down Stadia on Friday September 30, 2022 @07:35AM (#33033539)
>> I have no doubt whoever launched [project name] got promoted and then bounced to a different product and didn't care about whether [project name] was a success long term.

Same story in every company I've worked in. It's like the time horizon only goes as far as the next quarter.

Re:The most dangerous road for cyclists in America on Thursday September 29, 2022 @05:06AM (#33018063)
You'd expect so (and I'd hope so) but nope. Drivers become even more reckless. Driving huge, noise-insulated cars seems to put them in the mindset of total control, detachment from actual speed and "I'm not gonna hurt myself anyways". Depending on the country you can add a less than perfect driver education (if any) to the mix.
Re:Ask HN: What's the best “higher level Rust” these days? on Thursday September 29, 2022 @04:08AM (#33017747)
How about crystal?

https://crystal-lang.org/

Re:The most dangerous road for cyclists in America on Thursday September 29, 2022 @03:19AM (#33017466)
European here. We mostly get what you guys have in terms of cars and politics lagging just a few years or months back. Usually with narrower roads and worse infrastructure.
Re:Matrix web-based green code rain, made with love on Friday September 23, 2022 @09:30AM (#32951679)
wow
Re:Nightdrive on Friday September 23, 2022 @02:59AM (#32948860)
Saw it for a min. Nice.

Then I bumped into the car in front of me which was changing lanes. Not nice.

Re:The Strid: The ‘deadliest stretch of water’ on Thursday September 22, 2022 @11:03AM (#32939827)
Shouldn't at least this section be cordoned off?
Re:Peter Thiel's Religion on Monday September 19, 2022 @06:30AM (#32896500)
>> Perhaps Thiel sees Facebook as a place to contain unbounded Mimetic violence. It simultaneously perpetuates violence and prevents it from happening. After all, if people fight on social media, they won’t fight on the streets. Like a boiling kettle, we have to let out steam somewhere. Better to cool the pot on social media than in the streets. In the words of Thiel, “social media proved to be more important than it looked.”

This just sounds wrong. If anything social media have poisoned or killed almost all human relationships that I know of. It is now almost impossible for any group of people to even grasp the idea of consensus or meeting half way. In other words FB and the likes have created a huge number of cold-conflicts waiting the smallest chance to get real...but the writer (and Thiel?) thinks it's just the opposite.

Yet I think the observations in "Millennials: Young and Yearning" are really spot-on.

Good explanation but not what I'd perceive from a post asking for grit. FWIW I'd think what the OP thinks (and shy away).
"as the loneliness epidemic grows exponentially over the next few decades"

hasn't that happened already?

I wonder how much the contributors are being paid...
Re:How to Learn Modern Rust on Monday September 12, 2022 @02:08PM (#32814383)
So Rust is now old enough for people to talk about "Modern" Rust?

I'm either missing something or words don't mean what they used to...

what have we learned from a decade of dating apps?

Basically to not use them. Same thing we learned with a lot of other "social" services.

Re:Keith Davis was protecting the oceans, then he disappeared on Tuesday September 06, 2022 @05:32AM (#32734825)
Does what happened seem just to you? That form of passion that you disapprove comes from failing to serve justice in the first place. Do you have any better proposal than to just keep going like this and be sorry for the observers that end up at the bottom of the sea? If yes I'm eager to hear about it.

Also, unless I'm very rusty with the legal system, if you're the captain, by definition you're responsible for anyone on board. Coming back to port with anyone missing should be a HUGE problem for you. I don't get that impression here.

Re:Keith Davis was protecting the oceans, then he disappeared on Tuesday September 06, 2022 @03:00AM (#32733863)
So, everybody knows that almost certainly the crew killed him, and the crew and their company and their vessel just walks?

And that keeps happening...

I'd propose in any subsequent event of a missing observer captain does time, ship seized, company closed and that's done even before police starting asking questions. I bet there wouldn't be any missing observer after that.

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