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In case it's helpful to anyone who suffers from CFS I want to share a treatment which enabled me to recover 100%. It's called the Lightning Process:
http://lightningprocess.com
The theory is that CFS is caused by long term anxiety which sets off biochemicals such as adrenaline into your heart and bloodstream. These chemicals suppress your immune system and reduce your energy systems.
The treatment aims to switch off the source of the negative chemicals i.e. stop the anxiety. The methods are a mixture of self talk/coaching, posture changes, recognizing and confronting sources of anxiety and setting clear life goals to work towards a place of feeling less anxiety.
The LP was recommended to me by someone who also recovered from CFS. I'd say definitely give it a try if you are a sufferer of CFS, chronic anxiety or similar illness.
Have you heard of the lightning process?
http://lightningprocess.com
I had CFS/ME and was referred by a friend to a LP practitioner, after following the process and making some life adjustments I made a full recovery.
Nice work. Are the URLs recycled after some time? Do you plan to support some editing after the page has been created?
The opportunity to create something, exercise my mind, work with smart and nice people.
Sufficient income and vacation to live well, take care of family, and explore the world.
> my commute takes 90 min
The long commute in itself is not good for your health and a good reason to change jobs or negotiate some remote/home working. If your team is offshore, do you need to be at the office every day?
> I have no personal life, no hobbies, no interests. I can't remember when I laughed last time
A definite indication it's time to change.
> manager, who just makes excuses every time we discuss and shows false hope
Sounds like not much chance of moving forward in your current job.
> Should I continue the job and see how it pans out?
As you are an experienced tech professional in the US I think you will have no problems finding a position that aligns more with your life goals. Have you searched/applied/interviewed for any other roles? If so, have you had any offers or responses?
What about looking for Software Dev Manager or Architect positions at other companies closer to your home or with remote working options?
What kind of hobbies or business types are you interested in? E.g. sports, music, graphics, travel, education? Or are you looking for simply any project to improve your skills?
Yes, tiny mobile browser interface outfoxed me :-)
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rdtek on Thursday January 12, 2017 @05:28AM
from the ask-hn dept.
I'm interested to here stories from anyone who chose a job purely for the high financial rewards over less well paid but potentially more interesting/intellectually stimulating? How did it work out? Did you every regret the decision?
Personally I love intellisense and autocomplete functions of modern IDEs, I guess we have it so easy these days. The biggest drag on my coding velocity is more often thinking through the logic of what I actually want to program, recalling more APIs and function calls from heart would only make me slightly quicker, but then I'm also a contemplative deep thinker which may have an affect.
Christians Against Poverty (CAP) has a good reputation in the UK.
They give training on financial wisdom and help people get their life back on track.
Interesting one simple advice they give is to prefer using cash over credit/debit cards to keep a better idea of spending. Withdraw X amount a week and be disciplined to stay within your means. They give other counselling and assistance as per their website.
"releasing people from poverty, debt, unemployment and addiction".
https://capuk.org
An app to help with learning human languages better. Back in school I struggled learning foreign languages and wish I had a fun mobile app or even PC game. Duolingo is good and there's Rosetta Stone and various subscription pod cast sites plus vocabulary memorizing apps but I think there's still room for improvement in language education software.
Some people with autism do make significant progress to the point where they can achieve a lot and live a fulfilling life. The muscular dystrophy simile is inaccurate and quite disempowering, like saying "sorry your stuck in a condition so don't try to do anything". Getting a formal diagnosis and professional medical advice is of course a good idea as per the other comment. There are stories and research showing the brain can develop and learn in autistic children and they become more able to deal with the social challenges of life [1]. The OP has already said s/he has made progress with shyness, this is an encouragement to take steps forward in other areas too.
[1] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2271608/Can-really...
Try to develop your spiritual and emotional intelligence. A lot of people in the tech and science industry seem to be so focussed on the hard skills that they neglect soft skills and other important parts of life. Success in software development is only 20% coding and 80% communication (a wise person told me). Your anxiety can be overcome, look for opportunities to build positive relationships with people, volunteer, help someone, read some non-tech literature e.g. novels, creative writing, poetry, scriptures. Personally my Christian faith has helped me understand people and become more emotionally sharp. If you have any Christian friends or family get in touch with them. Believe you can grow and overcome, the lowest moments can be the most significant turning points from which you can move forward. You can do it man.
Some development jobs are more interesting, I've worked in a startup which was very fast pace and plenty of tech to learn and challenging projects, but the renumeration wasn't great so switched to an enterprise style company. Pace is slower which is fine because it allows a lot of time for enjoyable side projects and self directed learning. If your day to day tasks aren't challenging enough you can carve out some time to create your own projects.
Windows 10 under bootcamp as I do a lot of development for Windows. Strangely Win 10 runs faster on my mac than OSX El Capitan.