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Re:Ask HN: Reliving an old memory of traumatic meeting. How to overcome? on Tuesday February 20, 2024 @12:43AM (#39438393)

Thanks for the recommendation of book , I will definitely read it out. I totally agree that no matter what kind of situation you are in, the only change you can control is yourself.

I constantly feel like I want to interview the hiring manager next time I go through interviews:)

Re:Ask HN: Reliving an old memory of traumatic meeting. How to overcome? on Tuesday February 20, 2024 @12:37AM (#39438371)

Thanks a lot for sharing your own experiences and explaining them so well. I am able to see this incident as a ball of learnings , some I learnt now and some I will as I have more experience in future. Thanks again.

Re:Ask HN: Reliving an old memory of traumatic meeting. How to overcome? on Saturday February 17, 2024 @09:58AM (#39409998)

Thanks for explaining it so well. Can you please elaborate on 'keeping things in perspective' which you mentioned is the key here.

Re:Ask HN: Reliving an old memory of traumatic meeting. How to overcome? on Saturday February 17, 2024 @09:37AM (#39409773)

I agree with that I need to work on the skill of speaking up, however I feel I didn't do it here as I was burntout with some stressful situations at home like death of a family member and something like that life can throw again where I might not be very good at defending myself at work situations and succumb to people's insensitive behaviour around me. I believe I felt shame due the to insensitive comments in meeting like 'this is so basic' , 'if I was in this place I would have felt really bad about my work quality ' etc. I kind of internalised the shame thrown towards me.

Ask HN: Reliving an old memory of traumatic meeting. How to overcome?

Posted by parkhi on Saturday February 17, 2024 @09:18AM
from the ask-hn dept.

I am a software developer with 10 yrs of experience who has been on a break for the last 1 year.I was a part of a retrospective meeting almost a year ago after which I had quit my job. I was anyways looking to take a break as I felt burnt out and was looking to plan for family and this meeting gave me that push.Whenever now I think about looking back for interviews to resume work, I find myself...

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Re:Programming Burnout on Monday May 23, 2022 @04:11AM (#31476451)

I can totally relate to this. Going through something similar. I guess any personal life emotional burnouts can make us see day to day problem solving at computers as too huge a task. Difficult people at work or managers make it worse by questioning you and your work further instead of showing any empathy. In that case if you switch, starting to learn lots of new things becomes challenging as well. I guess thats also a kind of emotional burnout. All the best trying to take care of it with work.

Re:How to differentiate between imposter syndrome v/s working with a b... on Thursday June 24, 2021 @09:06AM (#27616875)

Thanks for your answer, it makes a lot of sense. How can I make sure that the new team I move to has a better management? It feels like a bet for better or worse moving to another team.

How to differentiate between imposter syndrome v/s working with a bad manager?

Posted by parkhi on Tuesday June 22, 2021 @10:11AM
from the self-post dept.

I work at a multi national company as a software engineer.I also have narcissistic parents which kicked in more of lack of self confidence resulting in anxiety whenever a tough or new task (requires more learning) is given to me at work.Earlier I used to mostly feel its my imposter syndrome as the reason which makes me feel so anxious after spending 9 yrs in this field , but recently I worked...

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Ask HN: Books/resources to prepare for design round of interviews

Posted by parkhi on Monday February 12, 2018 @12:34PM
from the ask-hn dept.

Hi,I am giving interviews for Amazon/Microsoft/LinkedIn etc. So far I have been successful in cracking coding round of interviews. But I am not able to clear design round, maybe because I am from non web technology(EDA domain).What are some good resources/books to prep for design round of these companies?

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