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It's actually pretty simple. "Where I can't interpret the tax code myself" means "where my attempt to interpret the tax code leaves me with two or more possible interpretations."

The tax forms are very comprehensive. I go through each line of the 1040, following the instructions. Wherever the 1040 references some other form, I find that form, go through every line and follow the relevant instructions there. This approach has even gotten me through obscure edge cases like a company over-contributing to an HSA.

The tax code isn't magic and isn't full of gotchas. The rules may be arbitrary, but they're easy to follow and the IRS won't punish you as long as you're making a reasonable effort and report all of your income. There's an IRS help line you can call. People only really run into trouble when they try to take absurd deductions or claim that whatever tech investment strategy they've invested in doesn't count as income.

If you're scared of filing your own taxes, I really recommend volunteering for a local VITA program for a year.

I never hand my taxes off to a tax expert.

If I run into a problem where I can't interpret the tax code myself, I'll schedule an hour appointment with a tax expert to get the answer to that specific question. If their answer sounds too good to be true, I'll schedule some appointments with other experts and take the most pessimistic answer. Ultimately, it's my responsibility that my taxes are correct, so I need to understand how they work.

I switched off of using tax software and do my taxes by hand, including rental income and stock sales. I'd estimate my tax return is 20-30 pages at this point.

If I ran my own company, I'd hand my taxes off to a tax expert at the point where filling out all of the forms represented such a significant investment in time that it detracted from my ability to run the company, but they would have to be significantly more complicated than anything the average person encounters. I would also hand them off to a separate firm if they reached the point where I needed credentials for the tax return to be valid - such as to assess the value of inventory.

It really doesn't take that much effort to learn how to do your own taxes, and the VITA program provides good free training in exchange for volunteering, which provides essential practice time anyway.

From my perspective, writing comments on Hacker News and posting submissions are completely different skills.

When there's a topic on Hacker News that I'm knowledgeable about or that sparks my curiosity, I know how to write a comment. It's a skill I've built up from all of the other internet forums I've participated in.

On the other hand, the primary place where I learn about news that would be an interesting submission to Hacker News is... Hacker News. There's also a fair amount of randomness to what is ranked as a good submission. If I had to find 3-5 quality submissions before I could post on Hacker News, there's no way I would be involved in the community.

The comments are also the primary value add of Hacker News for many users, myself included. Sights like Stack Exchange might have a much higher barrier to commenting, but in those cases the central way users interact with the site is something else (questions and answers for Stack Exchange).

If you grew up with even the slightest feeling of financial insecurity, dipping in to savings can already feel like the end of the world.

I can't imagine living with only 6 months of savings. There's no guarantee that I could find another job in 6 months, and unexpected expenses (medical, car trouble, housing repairs) can easily wipe out a month of savings anyway. In fact, given that a layoff means likely also an economic downturn, finding a job at the same salary within 6 months seems highly unlikely.

I have probably 3 years of no-risk savings at this point, have managed to reduce my living expenses to the point where I could work a 40-hour minimum wage job and still pay for my expenses, and have multiple back-up careers, and I'm only now starting to feel that taking money out of savings is an acceptable risk. That took years of frugal living on a high tech salary. People in their first few years at a tech job or with families will probably never achieve that.

Have you modeled to them how to make and develop friendships? Have you tried asking them what they've tried to do to make friends?

Limiting negative stimuli isn't enough for people to automatically replace it with good stimuli. It's the same struggle as leaving an abusive relationship or toxic job. People can know something is bad, but they're much less likely to leave a bad situation if they can't imagine what the better alternative is.

For example, my Dad is terrible at making friends. His co-workers and acquaintances like him, but most of the time his only significant relationship is with his spouse and his kids. My mom was great at making friends and finding community, but her ways of relating to people seemed inaccessible and indecipherable to me as a guy.

I did and do go to clubs of various sorts, but it's a real struggle to figure out how to turn those casual acquaintances into meaningful, reciprocal friendships. As soon as I had my own struggles or wasn't obsessively invested in the club, those friendships vanished overnight. I don't know any good books or resources to learn the skill of making friends. I can definitely see how someone who had more mental health struggles or was less extroverted than I who struggled to make friends in these situations would give up on trying.

I'll start. So far I've gotten my Wilderness First Aid and Wilderness First Responder certification.

I've looked into getting CEFR certification in German or studying for the HSK (Mandarin), but haven't put my money where my mouth is yet.

Do you realize that these laws that are supposed to "protect women" mean that I, a trans guy who was assigned female at birth but now have a full beard and look completely male in any clothes considered acceptable in public settings, am required to use the women's restroom and changing rooms in Florida? Is forcing an angry (trans) man to use the women's restroom your idea of "protecting women's spaces"?

I would certainly be a better person if I was the sort of saint that can talk to people who hate my guts that badly, but not all of us are saints.

It's currently illegal for me to use a public bathroom in Florida. Or rather, technically I am legally required to use the women's bathroom, but since I have a significant beard it's quite likely the police would get called on me for attempting to do so.

The next best solution would be protest. What I should really be doing is flying to Florida, using the women's bathroom as legally required, and making sure that as many journalists and lawyers as possible know about the arrest. I haven't quite worked up the courage yet, though. Plenty of trans people can and do flee the states that have successfully deprived them of bathroom access and healthcare because they don't have the energy to stand and fight. The descent to attempted murder has already happened, and it's not the trans people starting it.

It's only a matter of time before so-called "pro-life" policies start killing people too. Hospitals in Idaho are flying women to other states because they're not legally allowed to end ectopic pregnancies - which are never viable and always result in the death of the mother if not terminated - until the woman is too close to death. (https://www.npr.org/2024/04/25/1246990306/more-emergency-fli...)

I don't quite follow this. Surely each poker player who raises thinks that they will take the pot and the other players will lose. So they don't each think that the raise is mutually beneficial. Player A thinks that the raise is beneficial for player A and detrimental for player B, and player B thinks that their call is beneficial to player B and detrimental to player A. Which seems like the definition of 0 sum.

Compare this to something like trading apples and oranges, where one person gets an orange (maybe they are tired of apples) and the other gets an apple (maybe they are tired of oranges). Both gets something they want in exchange for something they don't want.

I think you might be conflating two different skills because you haven't seen good examples.

First is the skill of being an effective and persuasive communicator. This is an important skill to learn for anybody. The best resource I know for this is How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie. You need to actually read the book, not a summary someone posted on the blog.

People who only read the table of contents or a blog summary usually interpret How to Win Friends and Influence People as a book about flattery and manipulation, but that's not the actual message. The book has strategies for asking people questions about themselves, and presenting an argument in a way that will allow the other person to "save face" by making their change of heart look like their idea. It will make you a little bit of a better person in addition to a good communicator. If you're having trouble getting some of the concepts to click, you may want to find some friends to work through examples with. This type of practice isn't quite the same as Toastmasters, but Toastmasters is also helpful and you might find some interested folks there.

The second is the skill of talking a lot without saying anything of importance. This is used by Public Relations folks and politicians to persuade people to ignore the real issue at hand. It might be a useful skill for cover-ups or duping people who don't actually understand what you're talking about, but I think most people with a decent understanding of the topic at hand see through this sort of pandering. Politicians and PR reps probably still do it because people expect a response and - even for those who don't fall for the ruse - it's still impossible to figure out exactly how badly someone messed up after listening to a meaningless conversation.

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>> There just really isn't anything out there that is remotely close to SWE in terms of comfort, pay, and accessibility.

Making the jump from there to keeping a software job being the right choice for everyone makes a lot of values assumptions, though. I personally can't stand working at a desk all day. If I stick to software engineering, there's no way to get away from the desk. Similarly, I value sending my kids to a public school where they aren't limited to a bubble, and I don't need an expensive house.

There are people who genuinely love physical labor. I have family who still live on a farm and didn't even own a computer last I heard. Sure, they're not making SWE money, but they're happy with their life. Their son went off to school but chose to come back to the farm. I have family who happily spent their entire working lives as carpenters/woodworkers and are still very able, but there are plenty of Hacker News responses that claim all carpenter/woodworkers end up cripples.

A variation of this question gets asked semi-regularly on HN, but I think the reason the results so often seem unsatisfying is that the people who actually find a meaningful answer and switch careers aren't hanging out on Hacker News anymore. They're living their life and have found community with other people doing what they actually want to do.

As a result, the Hacker News responses are often incredulity that anyone could ever leave the software industry (even if it's a miserable soul-draining place), or slight career shifts that aren't really career shifts, with a little bit of Financial Independence Retire Early thrown in.

Now, where to find the community of folks who have left Hacker News for something they genuinely enjoy, that would be great to know.

For the existing HIV-preventing medications we have, such as PrEP, the treatments are much more effective in men than women. It can easily take a month for PrEP to be effective in Assigned Female At Birth folks, but I saw studies during the COVID era that a few days were plenty for Assigned Male At Birth folks. There's some logic to focusing on the cohort that usually has the lowest success rate with these kinds of medication.

The difference in efficacy has to do with the way the body is designed to absorb fluids, and its one of the few areas where hormones and surgery don't make a difference. (A trans guy on HRT with a full set of surgeries generally has male chances of cardiovascular issues, male levels of calorie consumption/muscle-building, etc.)

At the risk of stating the obvious and wasting people's time, it seems pretty self-evident that knowing about the existence of a species we didn't know about before is more interesting than someone creating an image of something that may or may not exist.

Presumably the phone hasn't actually been wiped, or wasn't when the crooks first got the phone number.

Smart phones generally let you add an Emergency Contact number that anyone can use the phone to call/text without entering a password, in order to facilitate an honest person returning the phone or someone contacting your family if you are found incapacitated.

There are so many books on learning a programming language, that I'll ignore that topic.

Someone else mentioned data structures and algorithms. Algorithmic complexity is particularly important. The Algorithm Design Manual is a great book in this space.

As a low level developer, I've also found the following topics way more useful than I expected:

- Finite State Machines (These are the basis for everything from inter-device communication protocols to simple video game AIs.)

- Binary arithmetic and boolean logic (Rarely relevant, but absolutely essential for diagnosing certain types of parsing errors, buffer overflows, etc.)

- The Halting Problem and P = NP (Useful when a manager tries to get you to do something that is actually impossible.)

I learned these from intro to Computer Science classes in university, but honestly Wikipedia is probably a good place to start. I think the (middle grade) book Lorem Ipsum also covers most of these concepts.

Why wouldn't they?

For some more practical reasons, in some styles of British crosswords, there isn't much intersection between words. A horizontal word might cross only 2-3 vertical words. In the standard US crossword, though, there are a lot of intersections. Almost every letter in a horizontal word has to be part of a vertical word as well.

In this context, there are certain patterns that come up a lot but are hard to find words for. A few words that have a nice structure for crossword writers show up with high frequency: acai, ogre, etc. Words or acronyms with several letters that rarely occur together are also useful for getting the crossword writer out of a jam.

Isn't it mid-skilled desk jobs that are becoming worth less and less?

You can't automate a lot of tasks firefighters do. You need someone to actually show up in-person, in an area where there might be things that interfere with electronics.

Automation in cleaning or cooking is pretty minimal. I don't see computers replacing chefs at any of the restaurants in town. We have roombas, but they aren't even particularly good at vacuuming - they can't move furniture to get behind it - and I don't know of anything that automates dusting, etc. There's laundry machines and dishwashers, but they still require human intervention.

We have more and more people delivering packages, not less, and self-driving technology is a dangerous/morbid joke.

On the other hand, automation of websites is getting better, but we didn't really need most websites anyway.

I've been using a Pixel 2 since it came up, and was surprised by the debilitating headache I got when I upgraded to a Pixel 7a.

It looks like the Pixel 2 was the last to definitely not use the technology talked about in this article. I hate searching for news about why computers cause headaches. I've had a similar experience with a few laptops (in particular the Surface Pro). A lot of the articles talking about screens causing headaches are quackery about EMF, and even the ones that don't mention EMF get shut down as quackery. Meanwhile, companies keep producing screens that have terrible glare and call that a selling point.

My layman's understanding is that the key to desensitization is that it has to be below the level of a certain kind of reaction.

Allergies occur because the immune system incorrectly associates a substance with a bad reaction, and so attacks it as it would a pathogen. The problem is that the allergen isn't a pathogen, and so the immune system can't actually kill it.

There's a treatment for pet/pollen/etc. allergies that works by injecting a very small quantity of the allergenic substance every week, slowly building up tolerance. The body learns that the small dose didn't cause problems, and slowly gets accustomed to higher and higher doses. If the doctor sets the dosage too high, the body has an allergic reaction and then that allergic reaction reinforces the immune system's determination that the substance is dangerous. The treatment response to this is to drastically reduce the dosage and try again.

If the sibling comment's assertation that oral exposure was desensitizing was correct, that wouldn't explain why some people develop food allergies later in life. (As one anecdotal example, my Wilderness First Responder instructor was slowly getting more and more allergic to mangos.)

If you switch careers, of course you're going to take a pay cut. Why would I expect to be making as much money as an apprentice plumber as I am as a software developer with years of experience?

There are plenty of jobs that are important to certain career paths but come with a pay cut. For software developers, it might be starting a business. Would you expect a politician to turn down a position as Secretary of [State, Treasury, etc.] because it's a pay cut?

There's more to life than money and if I have to spend the rest of my life working at a desk, that isn't a life at all.

I do think the snowball method also makes sense mathematically, depending on the loan terms and what you're optimizing for.

If your loans have a minimum payment and a penalty for missing a payment above and beyond interest (which seems to be common for loans in the US), the snowball method gives you more flexibility. Paying off a loan completely eliminates that part of your monthly minimum payment.

If in 2 or 5 years your income decreases unexpectedly (layoff, etc.), but by that point you've completely eliminated 1 or more loans, you're more likely to be able to continue making minimum payments.

By hand on paper.

I don't really see the point in worrying about data leaks. A CPA who leaked your data would have their reputation so completely destroyed I doubt it would be worth it. That's 5 years of expensive and high-energy education to throw down the drain. Plus, the IRS system is probably a poorly secured and very profitable target you can't do anything about.

The real problem is that software has bugs. If I'm going to have to go through the trouble of double-checking everything by hand anyway, it makes sense not to bother paying for software.

The useful piece of advice is how to learn to do this. Volunteering for the VITA program will give you a 2 day training on how to prepare taxes, in return for spending one day a week helping other people file their taxes for a few months. (Which is free spaced repetition and practice, anyway.)

I notice several people saying the energy is better spent on hospice, but these seem like different activities to me?

Not everyone who dies spends time in hospice. Wikipedia says 7-8% die from accidents and violence, and over 30% die from heart disease, which would include sudden death due to things like heart attack. I'd also expect those who die in hospice to be less likely to have unattended/low-attendance funerals. Family and friends have time to plan and gather for the death because they know it's coming. They also have time to adjust start the grieving process.

If someone I knew died suddenly and I was the only one who could make it to their funeral, I would certainly appreciate having someone else there as a witness, even if they didn't know much about the deceased.

In general I can understand the quote

> I feel like in real life, that's how things work. People mostly accept the brutality of the society they find themselves in, because its normal.

For something like modern day police brutality, sure, most people aren't active advocates.

However, I think that really understates the level of brutality in The Fifth Season. The main characters are the oppressed people, like Jewish people during the Holocaust or Black people under Southern-slavery levels of oppressed. Yet there appears to be absolutely 0 mention of resistance fighters or an underground railroad. There appears to be 0 active resistance anywhere, even beyond the main characters. No protests, no riots, no terrorist attacks, no one even suggesting that maybe outright eugenics and genocide is a bad idea and then getting disappeared. It doesn't have to be the main characters getting involved, just a rumor that someone somewhere is doing something. If someone punched me in the face, I wouldn't let them get away with it and then punch myself a couple extra times for good measure.

Do you have any modern authors beyond Chambers that you would recommend? Chambers is one of my all-time favorites.

I read The Fifth Season and hated it, but she's definitely a real author. I'd be interested if she has any other books that I might like better.

My main problems with the story were: - The setting was almost unspeakably brutal, but there seemed to be almost no one interested in fighting those brutal systems. I could understand 1-2 characters being brainwashed to go along with the brutality, or even most, but no one seems to even attempt to go against the system. This made the setting feel unbelievable to me.

- There are two big twists at the end of the book. I won't spoil them, but they didn't feel like well-foreshadowed twists. The timelines for the different chapters weren't clear, which made it hard to guess the first, and the 'clues' felt like bad writing mistakes. For the second, the only clue is what words people don't say.

The plot also hinges on a misunderstanding of how tsunamis work, but that's forgivable to me.

I didn't downvote (I don't think I even have the reputation to do that), but it's probably because you're advocating something that takes more energy but doesn't make the situation any better.

Getting into open source work or working for a startup for free means doing more work for absolutely 0 compensation, some percentage of which will still be drudgery and annoying tech debt, while still wasting 40 hours a week doing something the OP hates. The chances are almost 0 that this helps the OP in any way.

Putting that same energy towards getting a new job or learning - which could involve some amount of open source work but isn't pointlessly pouring time down the drain for someone else's benefit - or therapy or exercise or almost anything else, is more likely to be beneficial.