liveinspain55
Second - I didn't say it's not shitty.
I wouldn't normally nit pick on terms but this is a conversation about words and their definitions.
Dark Patterns are a deliberate attempt to defraud or deceive through the use of UI.
There are many things that are shitty - country music for one - that are not dark patterns.
Just because you and I both don't like exit intent popups, doesn't make them something that should be criminalised.
Dark Patterns describe activity that either is or should be criminal. The difference is enormous.
Intrusive, maybe, but a dark pattern is 'deceit by design' whereas what you're describing seems to me 'being slightly annoying by design', which is a totally different thing.
Thinking about Exit Intent and how to optimize for it is a fairly well established part of online eCommerce. I think you made the wrong choice and your boss was probably right to be annoyed with you. It's within their prerogative to decide what user experience they offer to their users. And obviously, it's also yours to quit, but if you do so based on a poor understanding of what a dark pattern is, you're just hindering yourself.