katodna_cijev

I do not read it as "giving it up _easily_" (clarified my comment, I realized my mistake in what I compared, and what I meant to say), but now I searched through his all comments and after seeing the comment about college girls being his favourite demographic, I do find that assumption more likely. I read that "both of us" quote as _not_ making difference in valuing people by the number of partners. If he really was a sugar daddy to multiple girls the way it appears to be, then he shouldn't feel like a fool supporting (and being supported by) someone as promiscuous as him.

Missing that one comment made me feel the same way as when I see others generalizing about the misogyny and judging the double standards (even without target or target's comments around, just a single one-sided claim) when my similar actions are totally not driven by it. I made a mistake and I apologize for sounding harsh while making it.

As for me, I'm monogamous because thinking about someone being intimate with my SO is not pleasant. And no, it's not about an insecurity like "does he have a bigger stick?". Sex and intimacy is an "old-school" way to show ultimate sign of love, merit and commitment. If it wasn't that way, there would not be much point in exclusivity and I would have been fine with her having safe sex while I'm out of town or something.

Are you in open relationship, then? Do you see significant difference between your SO sleeping with some girl when you can't, depending on the time it happened (whether it's before or after you two romantically connected)?

There are many dimensions on which one can value a person or a relationship. Not valuing sex the same way is just one dimension of worth, bound up in the numbers of people who have received that "sign". If someone (me included) is sleeping around, that doesn't mean they aren't great as a person, but by that dimension of worth differentiating a friend and a romantic partner they are valued less.

Don't you think partners should support each other? Equally? I am a tall, decent looking man as well and I did not give it up easily, why do you think it's OK to assume that about the parent commenter — after he stated his values? If sex is valued (by someone) as one of the most intimate interactions / experiences someone can share with a partner, then yes, it's a role of potential partners (and that someone if they don't have double standards) not to "give it up". Otherwise they aren't as good partners for that someone and it is fine to have that preference.

If I somehow messed up in my judgement and "gave it up" to the wrong person, I'd totally be fine with someone else valuing me less or even not considering me as a potential partner. Even if they had double standards in that regard, that's fine, our values are just not aligned and we're not meant for each other romantically.

No, without your assumptions this thread does not reek of double standards. Your comment reeks of toxicity, gender-based. And I don't think that's what an average person you interact with (online) deserves, regardless of their gender or the discussed topic.

Edit: clarified better