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Re:Ask HN: What does 'Resilience' mean to you? on Tuesday December 31, 2019 @07:49PM (#21925862)
This idea keeps coming up a lot in conversations, usually around avoiding or recovering from burnout, but I'm curious what comes to mind when you hear the word? And what exactly does the process of building 'resilience' entail?
Re:German expressions that don’t exist in English on Monday December 30, 2019 @01:53AM (#21911352)
"Wehmut" literally: 'The courage in feeling pain'.

This is powerful. I feel like this courageous curiosity has been the primary virtue or trait that I've been exploring and aiming to cultivate more than any other during the past couple of years.

As a non-German speaker I'd be interested how this relates to melancholy (these to me feel like quite different emotional states).

Re:Takeaways from coaching CEOs, founders and VCs on Thursday December 26, 2019 @02:34AM (#21882500)
"Who are you willing to continue to become, even after you’ve accomplished some success? What are you willing to risk, to continue going in the direction that is calling you?"

This is a really provocative and powerful post, you have a unique coaching perspective being grounded in somatic trauma therapy.

As a fellow male (British) ex-startup founder I can certainly relate to being disconnected from my emotions. What are some of the most effective means for encouraging your conversation partners to start listening and tune in?

Also, what might be some questions to ask a potential coach to see if the relationship would be a good fit?

Re:My biggest fear: Taking time off, relaxing and resting on Tuesday December 17, 2019 @12:00AM (#21810767)
"I heard someone recently say that they are so scared of doing nothing and just being because they’re afraid that when the engine stops, it can never be turned back on."

I had this exact conversation with my friend last night, she was saying that she was spinning so many plates and afraid that if she let them fall she'd never have the energy to pick any of them back up... feels like it might be true for a lot of people in the tech space.