dustiebug13

I know there are many that are grateful for what he does, and the support he gets from us, his family - however the negative hurts a heck of a lot more and create deeper wounds. However I can't sit at the sidelines this time, and as I told jnoller, usually this stuff happens on lists or sites I am not on.. well this time it is on HN and my filter between my brain and fingers and keyboard is turned off for the moment.

Interesting - I usually stay quiet; sitting in the background as my husband takes a lot of crap from the community he works so hard for. However at the risk of upsetting him, as well as starting a flame war let me tell you as his wife who can barely work 15hrs to take care of our infant who has special needs and who has to sacrifice quite a bit of time for him to do what he loves (the Python community is his mistress), and on the behalf of two little girls who also have to sacrifice time spent with daddy - there is no monetary payment, there is no commission, there is no sense of a monetary compensation for what he does.

Quite frankly, our family could really use the extra money and I have actually argued with him on this - embarrassing fact: at the moment because I don't make a full time income, we have gotten back to living paycheck to paycheck and barely. He works his butt off doing these things because the "personal profit" you so want him to disclose - is personal, he is doing it with a ton of hope that at the end the whole community will profit from it. Anywhere from funding other conferences, helping people via financial aide, helping smaller groups via grants… this money you think he is getting – is going to everyone BUT him.

Plain and simple, my husband is a fanatic and crazy – he does this because that is what he does… all he wants is for people to have a community that supports one another… all I want is for one day accusations like this to go away, and instead for him to wake one morning and see a thank you on “xyz” site, for what he is and has been doing.

P.S. Get some cojones and don’t hide behind a parachute account to ask questions, a few things come to mind when I see acts like this – a. you are embarrassed by it so you can’t show your face; b. you are a passive aggressive and are afraid of being called out by your name; c. you are still very young and do not understand how to handle things as an adult. Life is short; be you, don’t hide behind subterfuge.