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I'm glad to hear how well this worked for your cousin! I don't eat breakfast often enough.

I specifically wanted to touch on the cycle of trauma & ADHD that's discussed in the article.

> That is, the ADHD leads to very negative experiences. Having had negative experiences (trauma) doesn’t lead to ADHD.

I think integrating traumatic experiences can have a lot of benefits to people, especially in the absence of easy fixes - as far as I know there's not really a smoking gun for ADHD, or borderline, etc. I'd argue the causality matters a bit less here. I say this even though I genuinely hated the fatalistic nature of the Body Keeps the Score, but I think Everett is a bit too quick to discard that the mind is relevant at all. I'd love to be proven wrong.

At least for myself, I've noticed increased well-being / reduced trauma responses when I avoid relationships that cause me a lot of stress, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly. But my baseline disposition is still there, and it's hard to untangle whether or not that's from trauma or from my body.

Everett argues that it's probably just my body (low T / high inflammation / too sensitive?) and I don't think that's very actionable. I'd argue that mind-body link goes in both directions, but that's purely anecdotal.

I also really liked softwaredoug's take on Adverse Childhood Experiences in the thread above.

I really disliked The Body Keeps the Score. But at the same time, I think it's probably useful for people who have been traumatized to make sense of their experiences.

I also think that for a traumatized person, it probably doesn't make that much of a difference whether or not their body is different because of the trauma, or they're traumatized because of their body - they are experiencing these reactions and trauma responses, and they're looking for a solution. Somatic experiences might help them.

To be honest, reading the book was more helpful than critiquing whether or not my testosterone levels were too low as a 11-year-old, or if I had elevated inflammation because of my diet. Perhaps I'm biased.

what happened to employees at companies that were broken up in the past? do they generally just leave to competitors?

Seconding this - I loved 155, 255, and 251 from Professor Boneh. He's very talented and was one of my favorite instructors for multiple years; great at explaining concepts.

Autosell is a way for employees to automatically sell their Google shares as soon as they vest

I got lucky in that I joined early enough to get an annual raise + performance evaluation while being under a year in.

This is a pretty standard offer at meta/google in NYC or the bay area though; I didn't negotiate equity at all so I know a few people making more. I think it's definitely possible to get into meta/google without any of those things but tbf I was very fortunate because I did 4 big tech internships and came from a top 5 school.

I know people making about as much who didn't do internships or go to a top school, though but were able to get noticed by a recruiter and then pass the interviews

edit: also i looked at https://www.levels.fyi/2022/ and applied to all of the top companies I saw

1 yoe, ~200k big tech in the bay area. 40-45 hrs a week, more around deadlines

I can definitely agree. I used to be very skeptical about how fun or healing volunteering could be. I started volunteering at an animal shelter and beyond being incredibly relaxing - I love animals - it's nice to switch from trying to optimize my career, code, education to just using my hands to help take care of something and meet new people.

My anxiety has gone down a lot since I started doing this and I was able to meet some new people. Strongly recommend trying to volunteer with something you care about

I completely stopped using the app after his choice to elevate blue check replies instead of relevant ones. The app genuinely made me angry and it felt like my curation was pointless, especially since it would keep feeding me drivel from people I didn't follow

Most people are not willing to move away from all of their family, friends, and career. Software engineers are uniquely privileged in that we can work remotely, many, many other careers cannot do that

Experiencing adverse childhood experiences is correlated with increased risk of diabetes, heart attack, and lower perception of overall health. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4617302/

Speaking personally I don't think ACEs made me any stronger and I think I am where I am now in spite of them.

Many of my peers do not code in their free time and have done very well in their internships and now in their full-time jobs.

I have periods of my life where I don't code at all in my free time but I still really enjoyed studying CS.

On days I don't work from home, I try to always use the bathroom at the office instead of at home because the bidet makes it so much nicer. It's a small thing but it makes me feel like royalty.

Anecdotally I definitely agree with you -- I'm Gen Z and most of my SWE friends from outside of work have very similar perspectives. Don't think anybody actually cares about their job beyond the money.

Even some of my more passionate friends from school have developed a lot of cynicism after companies they loved rescinded their full time offers

I think this is a big part of why I believed 6 in 10 to such a massive number -- I grew up in southern California and then moved to the Bay, and it feels like most people I knew either had parents who immigrated before they were born or they themselves moved to the area for school or work.

From the context of a black person in the US who grew up and went to school in a majority Asian (70%+) area:

My understanding is that many first-generation Asian immigrants in the US immigrate to the US through visa programs, which tend to select for highly motivated, educated people. This in turn leads to their children having better outcomes, including financial ones.

People who are generally better off financially tend to live in nicer areas, and those nicer areas are less policed. This tends to lead to a change of perception of a given group of people -- most Asian people they know are smart and well off, so they use that as a heuristic.

Many black people in the US are descendants of slaves who were brought to the US against their will and had very little access to property, leading to generational poverty. Poorer areas are generally policed more aggressively, leading to more crime being prosecuted, and thus a heuristic is built that leads to even more aggressive policing (eg. stop and frisk in NYC was very racist as a result).

I don't think there are any innate qualities that Asian people have that black people don't that would lead to Asian privilege, and the two groups face racism in different ways across the US. Asian people are victims of racism in different ways even if they generally aren't as targeted in policing.

Recommend reading more about the model minority concept as well, as from what I've seen from my Asian friends and loved ones, is a concept that places a lot of pressure on them. Holding up Asian people as an example of a minority that does really well or is expected to do really well can mitigate their own accomplishments.

He hasn't played in over a year it seems:

https://www.op.gg/summoners/jp/TSMFTX%20SBF is his account and

https://twitter.com/SBF_FTX/status/1407924282865246215?ref_s... has evidence

Do you have any information about the size of the layoff / when it will be? I'm a new grad who started two months ago and is very anxious about this.