UPS has something like this. You can configure options using My UPS like "always allow the driver to leave the package at my door", etc., and you can login and divert a package that's in transit to a new location (like your office). The things that make it suck are:

1. They charge for at least some of these features, at a level that I personally consider unreasonable

and

2. The UX for managing this stuff is pretty bad, at least last time I looked.