You're looking for one of the X3 games (Terran Conflict or Albion Prelude), I think. With a bunch of community mods, it's exactly as you've described.
It's hard to say anything for sure given how little actual gameplay info they've provided so far, but it doesn't look like No Man's Sky's going to be that kind of simulation. It's very much a wanderer's game.
Re:No Man’s Sky
by JupiterMoon on Sunday July 12, 2015 @11:16AM
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You mean like real life?
Woah, you mean I can sign up to be a shipping magnate moving goods across the universe in real life :)
In some small way, yes. http://www.planetaryresources.com/careers/#workplace
Re:No Man’s Sky
by JupiterMoon on Sunday July 12, 2015 @01:03PM
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Apply for a job with a shipping company?
I personally would love a game where you choose a role, from tradepost manager to shipping magnate and the universe is large and complete enough to make this kind of role rewarding and interesting.