No, just no. Saying that one shouldn't be a programmer because they won't choose a language/tool because they perceive the community as hostile or toxic is exactly the kind of arrogance the tweet was talking about.

It is entirely logical to consider the group of people that you're going to have to interact with on a regular basis to get help while you're starting, and decide you don't have the energy to deal with those assholes.

And while every group has some assholes, some have more than others.