> as well as systems for databases, key-value stores, backup, mail, load balancing, etc, etc... few people are good at more than one or two of those things, which means I'd have to hire 2-3 people to cover those skills

That just isn't true. If those people were such unicorns, everyone would beg to hire me because I'm worth 2-3 people. :/ I'd be able to get a job anywhere with no trouble.

Given that isn't the case and most people find me unimpressive...yeah. I just think the problem is you, honestly.