Re:Ask HN: I've got a new job but the boss is a bully / abusive
by seekingcharlie on Thursday June 11, 2015 @04:18PM
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I definitely don't agree with anything he has said, nor is it acceptable in any form. If he's referring to you openly as an "immigrant" or "monkey", I also doubt that he's the type of person that would dramatically change his behavior after you flag it.
However, I still think that you need to communicate to him that the way he is behaving is deeply unprofessional as a colleague and completely unethical as another human being.
The 6pm issue is a kinda moot & one could ask all kinds of questions such as 'why didn't you eat earlier?' but I honestly think it's irrelevant.
Re:Ask HN: I've got a new job but the boss is a bully / abusive
by andyakb on Thursday June 11, 2015 @02:21PM
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Without touching on the other examples, insisting that you stay for a full day isn't unreasonable, let alone abusive. While it would have been nice for him to be a bit more empathetic to your situation, it isn't his fault you didn't plan better.
They guy sounds fairly insensitive which sucks to deal with, but be careful not to twist everything he does just to fit that narrative.
As I mentioned, I didn't eat at all yesterday and I asked the boss if I could leave earlier to eat. He said I couldn't and that "our schedule is our schedule" so I had to be there until 6pm.
This is abuse, clear and simple.