Re:On a brother’s suicide: ‘I wish I had never told him to g...
by Jtsummers on Friday May 01, 2015 @09:34AM
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Be present for them. Just having a friend present in my life literally stopped me from ending it. In my case I remembered the feeling I had when a girlfriend had tried to kill herself a few days after a date with me. I didn't want to cause that pain to my friend. This gave me enough pause to get rid of my means of suicide and go get help. Be open with your friend, but don't pry. If they don't want to talk about something trying to force them to may only cause them to push you away. If you've had any issues (physical, mental) that you haven't discussed with them, considering opening up to them about it one day. If they know that you trust them with your issues, it may help them to talk more openly to you about theirs. This isn't 100%, it doesn't work for everyone, but finally having a close friend I felt I could confide in helped me turn myself around.
I hope things work out for both of you. And please understand, whatever decision your friend makes is theirs. You can only help them so much.
Re:On a brother’s suicide: ‘I wish I had never told him to g...
by arfliw on Friday May 01, 2015 @01:20PM
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Thanks.
>whatever decision your friend makes is theirs
That's the hardest part. I know that logically but they are alive now. And I know there is a real chance they could wind up taking their own life at some point. I want to fucking prevent that from happening. It's a helpless feeling knowing that I can't. At least not with any degree of certainty.
I'm at a loss for how to help, beyond just being there as much as possible. They are doing all they can to get better, seeing a psychiatrist, taking medications etc -- but they are still having suicidal thoughts on a daily basis.