Re:Relationships Are More Important Than Ambition (2013)
by sliverstorm on Thursday April 23, 2015 @03:05PM
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I doubt there are many people whose lives are not bettered by friends & loved ones.
The hitch, I think, is when we try to prescribe how & when people should acquire them.
E.g., your culture pushes you into marriage at a young age "because having a spouse and kids will make you happy" when in reality having the right spouse will make you happy and the wrong one won't. Since you were pushed, maybe you didn't make a good choice in spouse.
Similar things could be said about shallow/forced/artificial friendships. While everyone benefits from good friends, what those friends are like and how you find and bond with them differs for different people
So maybe it's important to deliver the message that people are what matter, but also important not to try to force when or who or where, and let people find their own way.
The hitch, I think, is when we try to prescribe how & when people should acquire them.
E.g., your culture pushes you into marriage at a young age "because having a spouse and kids will make you happy" when in reality having the right spouse will make you happy and the wrong one won't. Since you were pushed, maybe you didn't make a good choice in spouse.
Similar things could be said about shallow/forced/artificial friendships. While everyone benefits from good friends, what those friends are like and how you find and bond with them differs for different people
So maybe it's important to deliver the message that people are what matter, but also important not to try to force when or who or where, and let people find their own way.