I'm not sure you have an unbiased perspective on what constitutes elitist or haranguing. Progressives were called sanctimonious niggerlovers, butch (women) and effeminate (men) when they rallied for the progressive issues of their day, and all of this talk about them "acting superior" seems like a lazy coat of paint on top of not liking what they're preaching. Additionally, it seems to be all second-hand, as is usually the case. I've never ran into militant vegetarians, they honestly seem like a figment of the american imagination.

And at the very end you're trying to go back on admitting your daughter is proselytizing, by complimenting her cooking skills. I think you're quite confused about your principles.