You have to understand what a woman means when she labels a guy "creepy". It just means she's getting attention from someone she doesn't find attractive.

If spreadsheet guy looked like Benedict Cumberbatch instead of being "creepy" he'd be, you know, innovative. The kind of guy who thinks outside the box in new and exciting ways. Particularly if he had money.

No, he'd still be creepy.

Lately, a lot of guys have repeated this misconception about "creepy," -- that it just means you're unattractive, and not genuinely unsettling. I'm sure that shields a lot of guy's egos. And maybe, in some cases, creepy really does mean unattractive. But creepy still has it's other meaning too.

That spreadsheet thing would be creepy no matter who did it. Because the guy is trying to approach dating like a math problem (is he socially awkward?). Because he's keeping detailed notes of everyone he's met (who does that?). Because he probably sees women like entries in a spreadsheet.

Nope. If he were attractive all those things would somehow be positive traits.

A few differences that seem pretty big: * after-the-fact tracking and analysis vs a sorta in-progress playbook for trying to score * not sharing personal information, and not coming off nearly as judgmental in commenting on individual people—especially in the "not sending it to someone you're interested in and seeing" category, jeeze * sarcasm and jokes are a pretty well-established way of treading on could-be-creepy ground in a less off-putting way

Even the Jezebel post itself, with its tracking down and interviewing people in the spreadsheet, is more creepy than this blog post...

It's only creepy when men do it. When a woman does it she is just being meticulous about her own interests.

Assuming this is an honest question, the guy is creepy because men preying on women is much more common than the other way around.

In what way? What do you mean by "preying"?

how exactly is going on dates preying?

Nobody's saying that this guy is preying. But the fact that other guys prey makes unusual behavior like this more suspect. Women have to be more careful than guys, since they are more likely to be abused. So naturally, they are more sensitive to unusual behavior. You and I see this spreadsheet and think "this dude's just awkward, but probably harmless." But some women might think "serial killer alert." This is partly because of the media (watch enough dateline and you'll think every man's a kidnapper). But partly because of reality - some men do sick shit, and women are scared. My wife has some stories about past dates she's been on that would repulse you.

uh, women also do sick shit to men. it's 2015, being a twisted, terrible human being is now an equal opportunity phenomenon.

It's almost like you didn't even read the thread you're replying to. One of these is much more common than the other.