Tool makers have more insight into the assumptions behind the tools they create -- they might know how a tool was meant to be used and what its limits are. That being said, there are times when using a screwdriver as a hammer is expedient and does no harm. Of course, there are other times where using Black-Scholes to model a high-volatility market outside of the 'smoothly differentiable' market assumptions it was built on can crash a large part of the economy. It can be a dangerous game to use someone else's tools without knowing their assumptions.
As for applied math suggestions:
1) Watch Feynman's take on applied math in physics: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obCjODeoLVw
2) Read this essay "A Mathematician's Lament" which points out the math learned in school is likely not really mathematics and that surprisingly math is not practical but aesthetic -- mathematics is closer to art than we are taught: http://www.maa.org/external_archive/devlin/LockhartsLament.p...
With experience and practice with theoretical math, you also learn how to apply it.
Any suggestions on applied math? I suspect I just haven't been exposed to enough of it to really connect the theory to the real world.