I don't make my girlfriend, the woman who I love, ask permission to talk to me when I'm chatting to a friend (or coding), with the explicit or implied threat of violence.

Very, very different. And incredibly disrespectful.

By anyone, not just by a woman? The misogyny was being pointed out I believe.

It's actually considered rude for any non patch-holder to approach two patch-holders having a private discussion. Gender isn't important in this instance. I'm not saying there isn't a ton of misogyny in the MC lifestyle. There really is.

"Any"? Including family? Doesn't your wife or girlfriend constitute a very special category? If not, then then are indeed messed up.

There's nothing the the article that says that is gender specific - a male non-member would have been equally unwelcome.