> Ultimately I´d hope that we raise kids that can listen to themselves as much as others, so they have some hope of guarding themselves from whatever neuroses the adults around them have picked up.

Yes, but these inside voices don't just appear out of nowhere. They are shaped by how children are raised from the time they are toddlers.

We want kids who know right from wrong and are not afraid to act rightly instead of wrongly, even in the face of peer pressure. Most of these qualities are teachable.