The notion of success is quite relative anyway when it comes to subjective things.
As for node, I doubt that it is a "success". For me it is just a product of Javascript "sectarian hype" along with cumbersome design decisions.)
The principles and desing decisions behind Erlang are well-researched and "robust". Details are in armstrong-thesis-2003.pdf
It handles tens of billions of messages per day for Whatsapp, that is successful.
Riak and RabbitMQ handle a lot of data and messages for many companies.
Ejabberd and derivatives are probably the default enterprise chat/XMPP backends.
If anything one can argue it is more successful than any of those technologies.
What are node's success stories? Paypal, Walmart, New York times. I haven't been following but those are ones I remember using it.