How can an introvert Asian engineer like me make friends?

Re:How can an introvert Asian engineer like me make friends? by jonnathanson on Monday June 16, 2014 @10:22AM (#7899177)

Exactly.

It's about balance. In my case, my introversion is strong enough that I usually let it have its way. If I find myself doing that too often, I try to be mindful of it and moderate it. It's work, though. Friendships need work. I have a hell of a time explaining this to my more extraverted friends -- many of whom "don't see it," because I'm not particularly shy or reserved in social settings. (Incidentally, I've been called an asshole or a misanthrope on occasion, because people don't "buy" my introversion. They just think I'm avoiding them.)

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Re:How can an introvert Asian engineer like me make friends? by JohnBooty on Tuesday June 17, 2014 @12:28PM (#7905334)

  > I have a hell of a time explaining this to my more extraverted 
  > friends -- many of whom "don't see it," because I'm not 
  > particularly shy or reserved in social settings. [...] 
  > because people don't "buy" my introversion. They just think 
  > I'm avoiding them.)

God, yes. Huge sad ongoing thing in my life. This is a constant thing I do. I'm not awkward, so I make these friendships, and then I unintentionally hurt people with my introverted tendencies.

I feel you.

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