I remember the case he mentioned well enough. As I remember, 2 male developers were making some perhaps tasteless jokes to each other, not referencing anyone in particular. A woman seated nearby, whose job is outreach to developers like them, overheard, and decided that it would be a good idea to take a picture of them, without their permission, of course, and call them out on the internet about it. A standard gender in tech scandal ensued.

Sounds a lot more like an interest police out to get guys than anything to do with respect for women to me.

> Sexual innuendo does not qualify as respect.

This has been rehashed aplenty. Sexual innuendo between two people, when not directed at a third person does not qualify as disrespect to the third person, unless you're trying very hard to feel disrespected.

> It certainly doesn't belong in a K-12 classroom.

If you think it doesn't belong in a K-12 classroom, I seriously doubt you have ever interacted with anyone in high school. Please read the data in this and draw your own conclusions. http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/FB-ATSRH.html

If I were to say that "you're ${INSULT}" when you can't hear me, is that not disrespecting you? If I close all my HN posts with "parenoob is ${INSULT}", is that not disrespecting you? Or, to stick with the 2-people restriction, if I closed all my direct e-mails with that statement?

The answer should be fairly obvious.

As for point 2, the fact that teens are currently taught to be sexist doesn't mean they should be taught to be sexist, or that it's OK. Especially not from adults.

In your example, the insult is clearly directed at the third person/party. This isn't at all contradictory (or relevant) to what he's saying.