Before calling BS you could just Google it too. ;) For example, here is a nice explanation of the F117's reflector. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lockheed_F-117_Nighthawk
As for Googling it, that's an interesting picture. It's not retractable, but I suppose the point is made. Perhaps the B-2's is retractable. I did Google it this time and found nothing but some random airliners.net forum posts, not exactly reliable.
You are talking about an agency that builds and operates planes that nobody else knows about. They can have any "exception" they want by just shrugging and saying the aircraft in question does not even exist.
All military aircraft have transponders because the air bases have ATC as well and (at least in the US) are near commercial airports they have to work with to avoid collisions during takeoff and landing.
Sure, they can just say the aircraft does not exist, if they stick to their own space. A U-2 is not going to do that.