I’m Single, Therefore I Tinder

Re:I’m Single, Therefore I Tinder by jamesaguilar on Sunday April 20, 2014 @05:31PM (#7618564)

Here are the steps to Tinder, as I understand it (never used it personally, since I'm married, but I have friends who do):

    1. Be reasonably attractive.
    1.1. Have a reasonably good picture of yourself.
    2. Use the app for a few minutes a day.

There is no step three. At this point you will be busy dating.

If you fail step one, it's probably time to get in shape, since that can make almost anyone a lot more attractive. If you're in shape and unattractive, that is hard, and I wish you the best of luck. :-/

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Re:I’m Single, Therefore I Tinder by dropit_sphere on Sunday April 20, 2014 @06:35PM (#7618743)

As someone relatively plugged-in to the PUA community, outsiders would be surprised how nuanced the discussion on this divide is.

I suspect that the game of love is impervious to hacking. Not that PUA techniques don't work (they do, and it is not a fun realization to have that people are so easily manipulated on something that seems pretty core), but that a lot of what people are seeking is ego validation, and you'll get "technique validation" instead.

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Re:I’m Single, Therefore I Tinder by jamesaguilar on Sunday April 20, 2014 @06:52PM (#7618783)

I don't doubt that some variations on PUA techniques can improve your success rate. I mean, the negation is ludicrous: humans are perfectly capable of detecting and ignoring posturing during mating dances. But you can get NN% of the way there by doing things that actually add value, and as a bonus, people won't think you are a scumbag.

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