So, according to that - you're both right in that it's a two party process. However, I believe the term is appropriate in underwater acoustics for anything which dumbly sends out a relatively predictable signal on a regular interval.
To "ping" implies you are the locator, not the locatee, whether you are sitting in front of a terminal window or are running the active sonar[2] on a boat. You send a signal out and await a response, be it a reply (as in the case of the ping command) or an echo (as in the case of sonar).
[1]http://www.radiantpowercorp.com/dk-series-underwater-locator...
"Ping" is an Onomatopoeia. There is no distinction about whether or not you are supposed to get a response or acknowledgement in the definition of this word - this is your own view of the definition, perhaps biased by years of working with computers, but in the acoustic world a 'pinger' is just something that 'goes ping'.
>I find it annoying that the media call this thing a "pinger".
I find it annoying when people assume their definitions of words they use are the only 'right ones'. Use a dictionary - you'll see the definition right there:
pinger (ˈpɪŋə)
— n
a device that makes a pinging sound, esp one that can
be preset to ring at a particular time
Arguably, a real pinger (underwater transponder?) would have much better battery life, needing only to listen for part of each second or minute for a page from a passing search vessel. It would squawk only when it hears such a page, and, encoded within the squawk would be the airplane's serial number, so there would be no doubts about marine mammals or stray locators. Also, the search vessel could measure the ping delay, revealing the range to the wreck. A number of pings from different positions would pinpoint the wreck's location.
The pinger could listen for search vessel pages on one frequency and respond on another. The page could contain a serial number, which the pinger would echo back. So, it would be simple to match page and response for the delay time measurement.
†http://www.radiantpowercorp.com/dukane-seacom-locator-beacon...