I'm sorry my comment caused you to feel such a negative reaction.

For what it's worth, I didn't say what I said casually. I've worked through similar issues with a coach over the past few years and being honest with myself about the real motivations behind things has been a profoundly useful experience.

I hope we can talk about this in person together some day. I feel like you've got me all wrong, and the fault lies in my inability to convey my empathy for the author through my words alone.