There were plenty of warning signs that Gox had serious issues, and they had existed for months.

The real situation turns out to be far worse than I expected, but what I expected had me off Gox months ago.

That's their problem, it's a currency exchange, trading is a risky business, giving your money to strangers shouldn't be taken lightly and you shouldn't just presume it's safe. The Gox problems were not a secret, 10 seconds of research would have informed anyone of them.

Trading is a risky business, but "the exchange loses my money" is not supposed to be a substantial portion of that risk...

Or to put it another way, if people properly understood (i) the nature of counterparty risk, and (ii)how the average Bitcoin exchange handled transactions, suddenly those banking fees would seem like an absolute bargain.

Comity! I don't have a dog in the fight either, and I agree that expectations alignment and transparency are key, and that it is likely that neither were present here.