Ideally, you are correct. But every society has their preset view of normal. To skate too far outside of that view will, inherently, cause a reaction.
Right or wrong, this is the way our society works.
Right or wrong, this is the way our society works.
imo, the individual has a role to be who they want to be.
In other words, his working out, eating healthy, etc., should be because he thinks its a good idea; not because others bullied him into it one way or another.