Re:Ask HN: How to deal with an abusive co-worker?
by throwaway1980s on Monday December 30, 2013 @11:50PM
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> If it were me, I'd probably try grabbing a coffee/tea/beer with him outside of the office
That's exactly what I have done before. I mean, I work with Jerry every day, and we would regularly go out for a beer after work to talk.
In asking about it, the response with "stress, and let's keep it behind us."
Maybe it is stress, maybe it's not, and maybe I am doing something that provokes Jerry unknowingly, but in any of these cases, does it give him the right to respond like that? If I am doing something to provoke him, and he's put in a situation that allows for speaking freely, away from other coworkers, and he still can't tell me what it is, is there any way for me to stop doing it?
That's exactly what I have done before. I mean, I work with Jerry every day, and we would regularly go out for a beer after work to talk.
In asking about it, the response with "stress, and let's keep it behind us."
Maybe it is stress, maybe it's not, and maybe I am doing something that provokes Jerry unknowingly, but in any of these cases, does it give him the right to respond like that? If I am doing something to provoke him, and he's put in a situation that allows for speaking freely, away from other coworkers, and he still can't tell me what it is, is there any way for me to stop doing it?