Re:When You Criticize Someone, You Make It Harder for that P...
by ChrisNorstrom on Saturday December 21, 2013 @12:36AM
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Summery: "instead of criticizing someone, ask them about their dreams"
What if your dreams are flawed? Nearly everyone's dreams are flawed. The world never works in the way you'd image it to. My mother's harsh criticism of my life's decisions is actually what ended up turning around my life. Harsh reality was not only necessary but the only way out of my endless fantasizing and dreaming.
I can understand and agree that positive reinforcement is better than negative criticism but that's assuming the subject eventually found something positive to do. At some point you either sit around and wait until something positive is done so you can praise it, or you suggest positive actions (which is a subtle indirect form of criticism).
What if your dreams are flawed? Nearly everyone's dreams are flawed. The world never works in the way you'd image it to. My mother's harsh criticism of my life's decisions is actually what ended up turning around my life. Harsh reality was not only necessary but the only way out of my endless fantasizing and dreaming.
I can understand and agree that positive reinforcement is better than negative criticism but that's assuming the subject eventually found something positive to do. At some point you either sit around and wait until something positive is done so you can praise it, or you suggest positive actions (which is a subtle indirect form of criticism).