There is a difference between "shit talk" and rooting out personal contact information to then send death or rape threats. I don't think anyone expects an experience akin to high tea with the Queen, but no one deserves to be threatened. Everyone, consciously or not, wants respect.

It's simple in theory but hard in practice. It likely has to come from guidance. As a parent, I expect I will have to teach her how to engage with people both on and offline.

There's a reason we force kids to line up and shake the opposing team's hands after a soccer game.