It may be true in some circumstances that it will be possible for a specific individual to get further ahead by participating in a bad/sick/oppressive/etc system, but advising women that if they just participate in the patriarchy for awhile, and work really hard, they'll succeed, is not an acceptable message. It perpetuates the problem rather than moving to solve it.
It's like advising people who are concerned about our lack of choice in politics to shut up & vote, rather than to work to reform /how/ we vote.
No. That's the whole point of this article. The bullshit is bullshit. Let's cut it out.
This is especially true in this case. You don't have the option of not participating and instead trying to change the system from the outside, because doing so directly harms your income and therefore livelihood.
I'm not saying that I agree with her; and tech is far worse than most other industries about being male-dominated. Really, the bullshit workaholic culture at many companies is the root of the problem, but it's something that varies on a company-by-company basis.