Rather than looking at how many rich people took investments, it's more meaningful, in deciding whether or not to take VC, to look at the outcomes of founders who take VC.
Those outcomes are not disputed... about half fail outright, the rest mostly continue as zombies, a tiny number make the founders a million or two, and a very very very tiny number become big enough hits to make the founders truly wealthy.
To make a comparison worth anything at all is a problem. While you might or might not like thinking of VCs as a filter, they do perform this function to an extent.
If your non-VC sample consists of mostly VC rejects, that's a problem.
Because of YC I've met a wide cross section of people who got rich from software. From literally hundreds of different sources. (I'm sorry I forgot about you; between you and Wolfram I know 2 who didn't take investment.)
I know 9 people who have made $5-$10M from software companies they have founded without taking outside investment. Most of the money was made by selling out to a bigger company, although one guy still is doing his thing.
They don't go to conferences, aren't famous and don't invest in startups. Maybe that amount doesn't count as being rich, though.
Tim Gill made close to $1b from Quark. Jim Goodnight probably made $5b from SAS. John Sall made $2b from SAS. Bill Gates made $50b from Microsoft. Technically, Microsoft took VC, but that was just a favor to give David Marquardt bragging rights... it was a nominal investment right before the IPO.
I could go on all day if you count $100m as rich, but we're just counting swans, here, not really proving anything