Totes. I was shocked that missing alimony payments can land you in jail. It should be a purely civil matter.

Marriage as it currently exists is a stupid arrangement. One size does not fit all. It's an opt-in to all sorts of contractual rights and obligations/responsibilities, which two consenting adults should review the same way they review any contract. Instead there should be a form with all the obligations that you could have as part of marriage and you checkmark those that box you and your spouse-to-be agree to.

Basically this checkbox form could basically be made up of all the items on this list:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rights_and_responsibilities_of_...