I don't know if this might work for you, but what has worked for me is playing music; as a form of meditation and especially as a form of social interface. It might be worth a try learning an instrument, then - once you have gained a certain level of capability - joining a band or community music group. Even on days when I feel depressed or not like interacting with others, the social obligations associated with learning songs, rehearsals, gigs etc force me to look 'outside' myself. And I find my introverted personality comes across more as 'interesting' or 'quirky' when set against a creative background. There are many other benefits - learning an instrument is a lifetime discipline, and there are endless depths of musical history and appreciation to investigate. You will also come into contact with a number of interesting and inspiring people. Music is a good counterpoint to and distraction from 'nerd programming life'. If music isn't for you, why not something else creative in the arts arena?