Ask HN: How to deal with inappropriate interview questions?

Posted by kobot on Thursday August 08, 2013 @09:54PM
from the ask-hn dept.

A while back I had an interview with a fairly well known startup for an internship. The interviewer asked me a few personal questions - what did my parents do, do I have any siblings, what is my relationship status, whether or not my SO would be willing to move, etc. At the time I was a little creeped out but I didn't think much of it since I ended up taking an offer somewhere else.

<p>Now it's about the time that I'm going to start looking for a full-time job and I was wondering what I should say if that situation comes up again. If I say "sorry, I don't feel comfortable answering these questions", I'm afraid they might think I'm being prudish or something. I know startups are quite casual, but are these types of questions normal?

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with inappropriate interview questions? by dandrews on Thursday August 08, 2013 @11:02PM (#6183494)

Your interviewer just sounds inexperienced to me. I'd deflect it: "That sounds like an off-prem kinda question. Maybe one of these days we can meet for a beer after work and swap stories."

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with inappropriate interview questions? by dnm on Thursday August 08, 2013 @10:22PM (#6183313)

"Relationship status" is flat out illegal.

The personal family stuff is just wierd.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=things+you+are+not+allowed+to+ask+...

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with inappropriate interview questions? by true_religion on Saturday August 10, 2013 @07:11PM (#6193018)

Technically no question is illegal during an interview. However, if you ask a question they may later use that as evidence of discrimination in the future.

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with inappropriate interview questions? by throwaway420 on Thursday August 08, 2013 @11:05PM (#6183506)

It all depends on the level of inappropriateness, how it benefits you, and your personal comfort level with it. If you're applying for a super great job, it might be in your self-interest to casually accept a few probing questions like that if you think that it gives you a better opportunity to get the job.

If you're the litigious or confrontational type, you might be able to spin this type of incident into a lawsuit or threaten them in some sly way to guarantee the job. I wouldn't do it that way or recommend doing that, but that's certainly an option for aggressive personality types.

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