I don't think there is any contradiction in what she says.
Gender, age, upbringing, education – all those things will influence someone's perspective on an issue.
But the issue itself is not about gender. Plenty of men don't want communicate via a lot of "Shut the fuck up, this is shit", and obviously women can swear and put people down, so it is not a gender issue. It is a style of communication issue, and the argument is:
Linus: I hate fake politeness and game-playing, so I'm just gonna let rip, especially on people who waste my time (implictly, to discourage that strongly).
Sarah: You can be assertive without being rude, and politeness is important in a professional context.
Her viewpoint might be different, and her gender might influence that, but that doesn't make it a gender issue.
Gender affect a lot of your environment and your education so you can't escape it's influence. But in this case gender is not a significative parameter in one's perception of Linus and his strong-mouthness.
The fucking topic is whether communication on the KML should be a bunch of stupid assholes giving each other shit. The topic has nothing to do with fucking gender. She's just saying (as is obvious to anyone with a BRAIN) that who she is as a person influences her opinion on the topic.
Get it now, dumbass?
[this has been an example of how Linus would like us to talk on the KML]
> Sometimes, that just doesn’t work for people who aren’t men.
I also found this to be confusing....
>I also got some really awful hate mail that tried to drag my gender in. But I don’t think this is a gendered topic
then a couple of responses later they say:
> I think that my perspective is somewhat colored by both my gender and my age
Which is it?