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Re:Ask HN: How do you apply for a tech job? by Leepic on Thursday July 18, 2013 @10:13AM (#6063734)
Personally, I always aim to be polite and I don't understand the reason why people believe that "argumentative" is necessarily a bad trait. Sure, it's bad if you argue for everyone and everything but doesn't this mean that you need to do it in moderation?

I think part of the reason why being argumentative has a negative vibe in the general public is because people don't really argue - they just bring their point of view and try to shove it down your throat until you swallow it and agree or choke on it. The mere thought of considering new suggestions is for many people scary.

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Re:Ask HN: How do you apply for a tech job? by NateDad on Thursday July 18, 2013 @01:55PM (#6065286)
Argumentative generally means arguing without and real reason to do so. Obviously, yes, you should stand behind your position, preferably with facts to back you up. But that doesn't mean you have to go out of your way to start an argument, or be rude while doing so.

There's a big difference between a disagreement and an argument.

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Re:Ask HN: How do you apply for a tech job? by Bartweiss on Thursday July 18, 2013 @03:03PM (#6065712)
This is a crucial distinction. Disagreeing with someone is valuable. Being argumentative isn't about accuracy, it's about ego and self-assertion. If the person you're talking to can't be persuaded, the solution is to call on sources (or if they aren't available, as in an interview, table the topic until they are.)
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