Just be who you are. If you are a no BS direct person then be that way. Conformity isn't a hacker trait. Guys like Theo and Linus would definitely be like this to your face too remember just because a few people here are scared of IRL confrontation doesnt mean everybody else is. Mathmaticians like Grigori Perelman are the exact same way in person as they are when writing and calling out other peers to their faces.