As a card carrying wielder of the ostentatious "she", let me just note that I use it as much for my own benefit as for the benefit of people who read me; specifically: I catch myself writing "he", and correct to "she". Over time, I train myself not to default to "he" so much.
I agree that the singular "they" is superior.
The fascinating thing is that generic he was an ideological construct in the first place, a top-down imposition that never fully caught on in English despite literally centuries of being proclaimed as proper. Singular they continued to be used the whole time, and is found in most (all?) great English writers. (Jane Austen was particularly fond of it.) I don't have citations handy, but people with similar bees in their bonnets have made sure that web searches won't lack for them.