"Since people will eventually die, it's better not to grow attached, even more, I should welcome the death since it will inevitably happen, and not only that, the death will actually benefit me."
> You're stomping all over his experience with a friend's suicide: you _know_ that, right?
It's one thing to process death and grieving by looking for the good in it.
It's another to tell people it's a good thing, and that life is suffering so welcome death - and your death will help other people.
It's like he's telling people "don't bother living", there's no point to it.
After all he was told by his monastery how to grieve, and he's telling everyone else here how to grieve (although he did apologize if his views bothered someone).
If you simply relate what you are doing OK, but once you want people to follow your views you must also be willing to accept some opinions back, and it's OK if you disagree. (And obviously actually changing is entirely the choice of the person.)
Plus, keep in mind that he is hardly the only person reading this.
But, all that said, and reading your reply https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5896351 I do get your point about what I am doing. It's just I VERY strongly disagree with what he said, and I couldn't just leave it unremarked.
This is the assumption I'm struggling with reading these reactions to virtualwhys. There is a sentiment that death is an enemy, a veritable monster; but more to the point, there is a sentiment that anyone who does not believe this is deranged and must be attacked.
You _did_ "call to the dirt" virtualwhys coping mechanism, because you explicitly called his reaction unnatural. Can't you see that he is grieving, too? It is a quieter, more subtle thing; neither maudlin nor overwrought, and he has quietly stepped back from the emotionally charged reactions.
But if you look, other people are stepping forward and relating their own experiences of loss in similar terms.
Personally, I find the "death is bad" to be an outgrowth of our attachment to life; an impossible attachment.
At the very least virtualwhys has received double the insensitivity of the perceived insensitivity of his initial post. You're stomping all over his experience with a friend's suicide: you _know_ that, right?
I wouldn't ask you to feel differently, but I would ask you to understand that not everyone views death the same way you do.